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To Soar or Stumble?

We asked parents, what was their biggest parenting challenge? One response, “my biggest parenting challenge is to find the right balance between guiding my child in the right direction, and setting them up for success, and stepping back to give them room to either soar or stumble.” As I read this challenge, I had a [More…]

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The Trick: Learning to Recognize Help & Then Accepting It

Parenting: The Biggest Job’s Priority #9, “The Humility To Ask For And Accept Help,” sounds deceptively easy. “Sure, I have humility. Yes, I can ask for help. I have a lot going on in my life; I love help.” It is the sub-text of this internal conversation that can affect our parenting. For many parents [More…]

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Moving toward truth, principles, and honesty

Parent: “How Can I Break The ‘Bad Parenting’ Cycle?”

This was a parent question we recently received. If you have a question you would like answered, please email me directly at phardy@hyde.edu. The question makes me wonder how “bad” this parent thinks they are?  And what do they mean by “bad parenting cycle?” (The difficult part of having questions sent in is that I [More…]

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How Do I Deal With Sibling Rivalry?

This question came to us from several parents, and I believe it’s a question that many parents have. Certainly, the discord that comes from kids fighting with each other in the home is unsettling and uncomfortable, especially if you, the parent, were raised in a home where this was not allowed. That was my home: [More…]

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Moms Roundtable: Teen Lying & Stealing

  In this Moms Roundtable, myself and fellow parenting coaches Claire Grant and Mary Moore discuss how to deal with the uncomfortable situation of learning that your teen is stealing and lying. Among the three of us, we have raised ten children and helped thousands of parents of teens in our professional lives as members [More…]

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Taking Things Personally

One question I wish the parenting coaches would answer is… “How do you not take the negative actions of your children personally and as a reflection of potential failures we made?” One of the first slides on the PowerPoint of a Parenting: The Biggest Job workshop is: Exceptional Parenting: It’s hard It’s doable It’s never [More…]

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How Do I Not Let My Son Intimidate Me?

Someone wrote this as a response to our, “One question I wish the parenting coaches would answer…” The nature of the question, as it is written, leads me to believe that the author knows the problem rests with him/her.  Had the question been “How do I get my son to stop intimidating me?” I wouldn’t [More…]

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When do they stop hating us?!

This is a question that came up in our recent parenting survey. I’ll do my best to answer. Is it really hatred?… Or is it that they just don’t like the rules and expectations?… Or they want to take the easy way out?  And they want you to help them! Have you sat down, at [More…]

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Mother tells her daughter, "Honey, if you have to have an answer right now it will be no."

Always Feeling Like I Have To Have An Immediate Answer

Thanks to those of you who answered the parenting survey, it gives us material to bring the Biggest Job 10 Priorities into practical, everyday use. From the section on “biggest parenting challenge,” someone wrote, “Always feeling like I have to have an immediate answer or consequence.” Our response to this is: “You don’t!” I wonder [More…]

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My Son Takes Advantage Of A Grandparent Who Is Spoiling Him

  In this Moms Roundtable, myself and fellow parenting coaches Claire Grant and Mary Moore discuss how to deal with a situation where a grandparent is spoiling a grandchild, and the grandchild is taking advantage of the situation. Among the three of us, we have raised ten children and helped thousands of parents of teens [More…]

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