Posts by Malcolm Gauld

About The Author

Parenting Coach Malcolm Gauld is the President of the Hyde Schools. He and his wife Laura, Executive Director of Hyde Boarding Schools and head of school at Hyde-Bath, are the authors of The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have – The Hyde School Program for Character-based Education and Parenting (Scribner, 2002), and they travel across the country leading Biggest Job parenting workshops. Malcolm is also the author of College Success Guaranteed - 5 Rules To Make It Happen (Rowman, Littlefield - 2011), a guide for beginning college students. He received his B.A. at Bowdoin College and his Masters at Harvard's Graduate School of Education. In 1995, he was a Klingenstein Fellow at Teachers College, Columbia University. A life-long athlete, Gauld continues to play lacrosse and basketball, has completed several marathons, and is an avid surfer. He is passionate about music, especially rock, jazz and blues. He and Laura have been married over 30 years and have three children: Mahalia '08, Scout '10, and Harrison.

Choose Your Attitude, Be Open to Destiny

Basketball dreams

With the best of intentions, we parents and teachers often attempt to inspire our children and students with some oft-repeated phrases: “I don’t care about your grades as long as you try.” “I don’t care what you do with your life as long as you are happy.” “You’re a very bright student, you simply need [More...]

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Don’t Lie, Don’t Quit

If you’ve spent any time at Hyde, you’ve probably heard someone say, “Don’t Lie; Don’t Quit.”  (I mean…. This one’s so last century.) In any case, Don MacMillan, former head of school at Hyde-Bath, is credited with its origin. The message is so disarmingly simple that it’s easy to miss the point. When Don coined this line, it [More...]

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The Road to Character by David Brooks

The Road to Character by David Brooks, book and portrait of author

Note: this article was originally published in Malcolm’s Blog. Hyde is a community of people who serve as stewards of five words (Courage, Integrity, Leadership, Curiosity, and Concern) and five principles (Destiny, Humility, Conscience, Truth, and Brother’s Keeper). If you are one such person, read David Brooks’ new book The Road to Character. Brooks had [More...]

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Man skateboards to work

At Hyde, attitude is pretty much everything. This piece on attitude by Charles Swindoll can be commonly seen and heard around our campuses: “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than [More...]

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Big Picture, Little Picture

Telescope looking out over a bay

At Hyde we hold a weekly school meeting of all students and faculty. The purpose is to pull the whole community for purposes of exploring any number of topics or issues. One stand-by exercise is called Big Picture/Little Picture. First, we visualize and discuss inspiring big pictures for ourselves (e.g., be a marine biologist, a [More...]

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The Lighthouse Story

The Lighthouse Story - image of a lighthouse with gray skies

A story from Stephen Covey. Shortly after Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Free Press) was published in 1989, it quickly became a significant contributor to the Hyde culture. Twenty-five years later, at many a parents’ weekend we still read the Lighthouse Story to the entire community. Without giving the punch line [More...]

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CONCERN: An Inspirational Force

Student support group

I need a challenging and supportive community to develop my character. My 25 years spent teaching young people have taught me that we don’t get where we need to go by driving solo. We all need the help of others. Whether that help comes in the form of an encouraging word or a “kick in [More...]

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Be Serene

Cup of coffee on a deck in fall

Among the regrets I harbor regarding how I have spent my adult life, there’s one that stands out: I wish I had not spent so much time worrying. I have worried about the past, the present, and the future. I have worried about what might happen. I have worried about what might not happen. I [More...]

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The 3 Characteristics People of Character Tend to Reflect

Violin players in an orchestra

We have observed that people of character tend to reflect three characteristics: Rigor, Synergy, and Conscience. Rigor—People of character take risks. In facing values-forming challenges they develop self-discipline and persistence that will serve as a life-long guide. Synergy—Teamwork, when coupled with rigor, leads to synergy, a concept we define as “1+1=3.” Synergy can enable the [More...]

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You Don’t Get Something for Nothing

Bee on honeycomb

Here’s another one of those adages that rolls off the tongue so often that we don’t think about it, much less really ponder its wisdom. I get three things from it: Work hard and you just might get something. Don’t work and you should expect to get nothing. When it appears that you have gotten [More...]

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