Posts by Joseph Gauld

About The Author

Parenting coach Joseph W. Gauld is the founder of Hyde Schools, a community of seven public and private schools built on his concept of family-based character education. While the concept began in a New England boarding school, today it includes inner-city schools in New York City and New Haven, CT. Joe is a graduate of Bowdoin College and has a master’s degree in mathematics from Boston University. He wrote the column “The Courage to Grow” and four books: What Kids Want-and Need-From Parents: How to Bond with and Mentor Children, Character First, Hyde: Preparation for Life, and Nature’s Parenting Process. Joe and Hyde Schools have been featured on CBS 60 Minutes, ABC 29-20 and NBC Today. Joe lives on the Hyde-Bath, ME campus, and continues to work at the schools, particularly as a consultant to the urban schools and the Hyde Foundation and as a facilitator in seminars for parents. In his spare time, he golfs.

Parenting Guide Part 6: Parent with Principles cont.

Happy family pilled together and taking self portrait

Part VI of the series on Nature’s Parenting Process by Joseph Gauld Concept # 3: Parent with Principles – part 2    Throughout the history of mankind, family has been the central unit of human growth. It is the institution we continually honor to live a meaningful and healthy life. The greatest human responsibility is [More...]

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Parenting Guide Part 5: Parent with Principles

Moral compass showing Good and Bad

Part V of the series on Nature’s Parenting Process by Joseph Gauld Concept # 3: PARENT WITH PRINCIPLES: Establish Values and Traditions   Since parents are all imperfect, we don’t want our own shortcomings to help define who our children become. A giant step in accomplishing this is constantly emphasizing “principles over personalities” in our [More...]

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Parenting Guide Part 4: Parent Beyond Love cont.

Proud dad with his daughter

Part IV of the series on Nature’s Parenting Process by Joseph Gauld Concept # 2: Parent Beyond Love- part 2  We express our love to our child by seeking the fulfillment of our own unique potential, and setting high expectations for ourselves in order to achieve it. Since our children seek to imitate us in [More...]

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Parenting Guide Part 3: Parent Beyond Love

Country road, pathway into in the mountains

Part III of the series on Nature’s Parenting Process by Joseph Gauld Concept # 2: Parent Beyond Love – part 1 As parents, we are meant to give our love to our children regardless of what they give in return. In fact, this unconditional parental love should primarily be reserved not even for the child, [More...]

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Parenting Guide Part 2: Parent with Humility

Eisenhower family portrait

Part II of the series on Nature’s Parenting Process by Joseph Gauld Concept #1: Parent with Humility- Part 2  Last week we talked about the need for humility in our parenting, and the concept that after the first 19 years of our child’s life, the responsibility for their growth needs to be returned to the [More...]

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Parenting Guide: Part I

Nature's Parenting Process book cover

Hyde School founder Joseph W. Gauld wrote the book, Nature’s Parenting Process: Five Simple Truths to Empower Our Children (Hyde Foundation Press, 2010), centering on what Gauld calls the “inherent guidelines for raising children.” It was inspired by the nationally recognized parenting and family concepts created at the first Hyde School in Bath, Maine. Gauld’s assertion [More...]

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Letting Go of Adult Children

Parents with their adult son sitting on the couch

Do you have an adult child you can’t let go of? If so, you are not alone. And, unfortunately, many good intentions—wanting children to feel good about themselves, to be happy, to stand out—has so blinded the parent community over the past three decades to the deeper challenges of preparing children for life, that it [More...]

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How to Communicate with Kids

Getting through to teenagers

We adults have a misconception that teenagers intellectually understand what we say; that sometimes they just don’t listen. It’s more complicated than that. The other day one of our Chinese students asked, “Mr. Gauld, ‘It’s raining cats and dogs’—what does that mean?” I told him it was a saying that had been passed down, meaning [More...]

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Part V: Parent by Example

Boy on father's shoulders

……………………………… Note: In Joseph Gauld’s article “Parenting the Way Nature Taught Us,” he argues that “nature provides a powerful process for raising children that produces truly fulfilling and exceptional lives.” In this 5-part series, he outlines “basic truths that will help parents join their unique gifts with nature’s powerful process and in so doing, empower [More...]

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Part IV: Take Hold as We Let Go

Handing over car keys

……………………………… Note: In Joseph Gauld’s article “Parenting the Way Nature Taught Us,” he argues that “nature provides a powerful process for raising children that produces truly fulfilling and exceptional lives.” In this 5-part series, he outlines “basic truths that will help parents join their unique gifts with nature’s powerful process and in so doing, empower [More...]

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